Posts Tagged ‘transracial adoption’

British Struggling with Transracial Adoption Issues

January 25, 2011

I just read a really interesting article about transracial adoptions (or rather, the policy against transracial adoptions) in the British foster care system.   What do you think?

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Talking About Race with Children

October 25, 2010

As we were leaving dance class, my five year old pointed to a classmate walking away with her mom and said, “She’s a black and white girl”.   This little girl happens to be a child of color and her mom happens to be white.  Given what I do for a living, maybe it’s not too surprising that my first thoughts were about race and that I wondered what questions or thoughts Olivia was going to present to me about race.  Fortunately, I took a moment to clarify:

Me:  What do you mean by black and white girl?

Olivia:  I mean she has a black and white bag.  It’s really cool and she likes black and white.  I’m more of a pink girl or a rainbow girl because really like my pink bag and things with lots of colors.

I had to laugh at myself a bit for jumping to conclusions, even in my own head, but I think it’s a good reminder that we can’t always assume that we know what our kids are thinking, asking or talking about!   It’s important to follow their lead so that we don’t miss opportunities to talk about important issues or conversely, start dispensing information they are not ready to understand or hear.

From Our Inbox: Race and Adoption, Birthday Parties and Hard Questions…

September 16, 2010

We received the following email this week asking a very interesting question about talking to your child about race.   Read the email and our response below.  Also,  feel free to chime in with your own thoughts and comments!

You are always my go-to gals on all things adoptive that stump. My soon to be 6year old Ethiopian daughter announced that she wanted to invite only “chocolate children” to her birthday. When I asked why, she said “There are so many white people in the world.” I reminded her when we arrived in Ethiopia we were the only white people surrounded by “chocolate” Africans, this suprised her. I asked if her father and I could come to her party and she said yes, all African parents can come. What would you have said to her and should I be introducing more of a “how about we invite all kinds of children to your party?”
Really interested in your thoughts.

Birthday Mom

The following is my response: (more…)

Different Perspective on International Adoptions

March 8, 2010

“The primary consideration should be the welfare of the children in question. Where will they have the best chance at happy, fulfilling lives? How best can the global community ensure their health and safety?” Jeneen Interlandi, The Benefits of International Adoption, Newsweek.

A well-written article that discusses the positives in international adoption–something not often heard in the media these days, it seems.  Why is this?  Is there really that much bad news about international adoptions?  Or, is it a function of bad news selling quicker than good news?  Or is there another reason?

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