Posts Tagged ‘talking about adoption’

Back to School for Adoptive Families

August 20, 2010

It’s back to school week at my house!  I look at the beginning of school from the eyes of both teacher and parent and then to add a little twist I also know what it is like to have to advocate for a child with special needs, to  educate teachers on inclusive adoption language, and to evaluate reading programs.    I feel sorry for the teachers my children  get because I have VERY high expectations.    OK—I don’t really feel sorry for them.    Although I’ve felt like a burden  at times I’ve always been aware that I am the primary advocate for all my children and I have enjoyed many wonderful relationships with their teachers over the years.

All kidding aside this time of year can be stressful for adoptive families.  Besides just getting to know a new teacher they also  often have specific needs that require explanation and guidance in order to be successful in the classroom.  Having sat in both the teacher chair and the parent chair over the years I decided to  try my hand at a quick guide for parents on talking to their child’s teacher about adoption and special classroom needs.  You can download a pdf of the article here.  I hope you enjoy it and would love to hear your feedback.

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more on the “real” word, talking about adoption

May 20, 2010

I recently had a reminder of how powerful societal messages are in shaping our children’s perceptions when my 4-year-old daughter (through birth) asked where her 15-year-old brother’s “real mom” is.   As you might imagine, I was floored.   Here I am, an adoption educator and my own child asks this question about my other own child!!!! (more…)

Adoptive Families are REAL! (Just ask my fourteen year old!)

April 25, 2010

My 14 year old has become an indignant defender of positive adoption language.  Of course this tickles me to death.  The best part is that she is actually quite fearless in whom she will take on in this debate.  Check out the situations she has found herself in just during middle school. (more…)


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