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Fortune Cookie and Our New Course

May 24, 2012

Creating our next course on open adoption is taking longer than we expected, but I received a good reminder to be patient!  We here at Heart of the Matter truly do believe in putting out quality courses that are worth taking!   –Katie

I not only had a nice lunch but received a good reminder yesterday!


Open Adoption: Capturing the Voice of the Adoptee

April 18, 2012

Katie and I are deep in work on our newest project, an online course for prospective parents considering an open adoption.  As part of our work we have launched a research project to try and capture adult adoptees’ voices.  We’re specifically looking for adults 18+ who had some degree of contact with birth family members while growing up.  Please share this link with those you know who might want to participate.  The participants may remain anonymous.  Results will be published on our website and used in our course.  The survey takes only a few minutes to complete.

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Same Song, Different Verse–Distinguishing Needs

July 6, 2010

Our 4th of July started out and ended a bit rocky.  (Fortunately, there was a ton of good stuff in between.)  Although some of the behaviors looked very similar the need and therefore, my response, was very different.

Olivia's dramatic attempt at looking "scared"

At the start of our 4th of July festivities, Olivia was working hard at being dramatic about the fireworks and specifically, the noise.  She was “scared!” (supposedly) and was working her way from drama to truly psyching herself out.  So, what was the need? (more…)

Re-Parenting Thoughts

March 5, 2010

I intended to post a follow up from Monday’s  webinar much sooner, but O.’s germs caught up with me and I succumbed to “the crud” that afternoon and all week long.  Anyway, it did give me time to think about one of the examples we didn’t have time to discuss:  re-parenting during times of illness.

We all get sick once in awhile and many children being adopted internationally have special medical needs.  Although no one wants their child to be sick, it is one of those negatives that can be used for good (more…)

Public Tantruming

February 13, 2010

Our family was at Barnes & Noble yesterday evening.  As O. and I were making our way to the checkout we (and the whole store) heard this horrendous, gutteral screaming and crying begin accompanied by such phrases as, “NO!  BUT I WANT IT!!!  AAAARRRGGGHHH!!!” (more…)

Dr. Bruce Perry webinar for families adopting from Haiti

January 27, 2010

I’m so pleased to announce that Dr. Bruce Perry has agreed to provide a webinar (free of charge!) to families currently adopting from Haiti.  You can find more information about it here:   Dr. Bruce Perry Webinar for Haiti Families

Dr. Perry and the Child Trauma Academy have made a huge impact on our understanding of trauma as it relates to children and brain development and we are very grateful that he will be addressing the needs of these kiddos and their families.

Please note:  This live webinar is for parents who are in process or who have just recently brought their children home.  It is not for folks who are just interested in learning about adopting from Haiti.  A recording will be made available after the live event.

Here we go!

January 26, 2010

Well, this blog is a long time coming.  It’s one of those things Julie and I have been asked to do, talked about doing, intended to do for a really long time… and are just now getting around to it.  So–welcome!

What I am most excited about is the possibility of give and take.  I’m looking forward to discussions between us and am interested to hear your ideas, wonderings and thoughts about parenting whether it be parenting a child who waited (ie–was adopted internationally or through domestic foster care) or parenting in general.

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